He doesn’t think he has a problem. I think for me, one of the most painful and difficult parts to cope with is that despite adjusting my expectations of my parent, doing the work in my own therapy, and fostering other support (friends, husband, work) I still find myself feeling stuck in the past, and continuing to be disappointed when she’s not emotionally there for me. I can sometimes (most when his bags are almost packed) get him to understand the way he behaves is hurtful. Life was great; we were so in love. But when she found an email her husband of 20 years had written to a colleague he’d been having a two-year affair with, the decision to leave wasn’t as simple as she had imagined. On weekends he will never do anything with me. He says it has only been when it has been a while since we were able to have sex. His family are all on the spectrum too but only be and his mother are covert narcissists like this. My boyfriend at the time made me feel like I was the smallest and the worst person in the whole world. I believe this has … Get angry when my dad calls to check on me. My husband has ASC (or Asperger’s) and behaves like this! “That experience has caused me much damage mentally. I have been married for over 25 years. Loving Wives 09/30/20: Fallout (4.50) Sam's journey of discovery, warts and all. But as of a year ago anxiety set in. I found out that my husband has been masturbating. Not as my husband or my daughter's father, but as a man, a sexual being, a person who wants to be wanted, who needs to be wanted. He is withdrawn from everything, he goes to work, comes home, goes for a walk, has 2 beers and goes to bed. You destroyed my heart, and in the end I still worried about protecting you. I too thought I was doing okay. Reconciliation with my husband has been painful but rewarding. State he was not raised like me and when you get married, you shouldn’t need your family. Thank you for your advice. After reading it, something told me I needed to discuss it with my husband. Dear Prudence, My former best friend slept with my husband. It is a word I never heard of, but it fits my husband perfectly. She changed my life. I deprived my kids of having a great father in the house with them and I took his kids away from him. Moving forward step by step. It has been so difficult living with him and has torn me down emotionally. We both have had good careers (both in federal law enforcement). To my self-esteem, etc. My husband has a pornography addiction which I have endured for 32 years. Despite the fact that I am accomplishing much academically in my life, I still feel inferior to the majority (Whites) and try each day, through psychotherapy, to overcome this dark cloud that hangs over me.” (S.I.) Nobody Lyrics: My God, I'm so lonely / So I open the window / To hear sounds of people / To hear sounds of people / Venus, planet of love / Was destroyed by global warming / Did its people want I lost my husband 7 months ago. My husband has been depressed now for as long as I can remember and after 8 years together, this morning I feel as though I can't hang on any longer. Loving Wives 03/17/18: Flowers in the Trash Can (4.46) Letting my imagination run wild. One thing stands between them and $1 million - her husband. In 2014 he left me because the people he was hanging out with were drug addicts and my husband got into the mix, so instead of bringing it to our home he left, and 3 months later he was arrested for a $90.00 drug sale. Time with them is about taking care of their business, which will leave you feeling frustrated and unfulfilled, if not angry. Well, now that you mention it, we haven't rewarded our neighbors properly and my husband has been making wine. In response, my husband packed his bags and left, which made me feel like his addiction was stronger than his love for our family. Set boundaries (with respect), disengaged when he started getting emotionally abusive. My husband’s death was a shock to say the least. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on October 19, 2017: So funny! She not only fit my physical ideal and was hypersexual, uninhibited and orgasmic, but I loved everything else about her. Yup. When I was 37 I lived for over a year with the most amazing woman ever. Of course I'll approve it - there's nothing that can't be improved with a little humour. Time with them is about taking care of their business, which will leave you feeling frustrated and unfulfilled, if not angry. Only once. And thinks that I am over reacting. Hi everyone! “That experience has caused me much damage mentally. I been with my husband for 25 years and married for 12 years. I was devastated, but I knew setting boundaries and preventing my children from being affected by his addiction was my priority, and I was willing to put my marriage on the line to protect them. My Husband Had An Affair: “We’re together, but our sex life has ended.” Barbara Samuel* always believed no woman should live with a man who cheats. My decades-long porn addiction nearly destroyed my love life By Jane Ridley. But this 7th month has just destroyed me. Yells and finds little stuff to argue about. This is me. I can’t seem to stop crying uncontrollably. I recently found out my husband has been unfaithful for the second time in our marriage of years. I recently found out my husband has been unfaithful for the second time in our marriage of years. My husband's anger issues have destroyed my family and ostracized my daughters, because I followed similar advice. Judgment can destroy your relationships. I’ve been married only 7 months…I admit catching on to some red flags of controlling, verbal and emotional abuse from my husband … I loved her with my heart and soul and she loved me. She was 31. All I see is him dying. Emotional triggers lead to you creating standards that others will find hard to meet. I'll get the camera set up first, though. ... [emotionally] intimate as we could have.” ... That all changed when she met her now-husband… Deli February 14th, 2018 at 8:44 PM . To my self-esteem, etc. I think he has PTSD to go along with it. “Now I feel very afraid for my … I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. When you can't meet the high expectations of a … I destroyed a man who looking back was a great husband. After doing some soul searching and him finally looking for God for guidance and forgiveness I decided I want to stay together and work on our marriage but sex has not been easy for me after finding out about what he did. He said that hurt him more than anything else and that he doesnt know if he can ever trust me again. To save our marriage, we cut off all ties with her and her family. I don’t know how to go on. I dont blame him. The twitches get worse when I see him. Despite the fact that I am accomplishing much academically in my life, I still feel inferior to the majority (Whites) and try each day, through psychotherapy, to overcome this dark cloud that hangs over me.” (S.I.) “Now I feel very afraid for my … Toxic people are draining; encounters leave you emotionally wiped out. (Like when I have really bad periods lasting like 7 days) On average my husband and I have sex 2 sometimes 3 times a week. ... About 8 years ago I was in a relationship where I was emotionally and verbally abused. Now it it is so bad that I have twitches. After doing some soul searching and him finally looking for God for guidance and forgiveness I decided I want to stay together and work on our marriage but sex has not been easy for me after finding out about what he did. And I know that watching her and me … We got into a relationship in 2011. I have been married to my husband for 22 years. I feel worse now then I did when he died. In the last 6 years he has been putting me down, gets mad when my family comes to visit. Loving Wives 06/07/20: Goodbye Sweetheart (4.34) My wife discovers she's too good for me. What I am struggling with is that my husband often wants to change. Toxic people are draining; encounters leave you emotionally wiped out. I have never been able to figure his angry,demeaning personality out until a marriage counselor said the word narcissist. Loving Wives 04/07/20 My husband and I have been best friends for 30 years. Fit my physical ideal and was hypersexual, uninhibited and orgasmic, but I loved her with heart. 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